This Might Be a First – In Minnesota, or the Nation

This might be the first time something like this has happened in Minnesota—or maybe even the entire country. I’m not totally sure, but it’s certainly the first I’ve ever heard of it.

I’ve been holding off on sharing this until now. Amy and I have been going through court in separate hearings—outside of the OFP and custody case—for child support. And even though it’s illegal to kidnap someone’s kids and block them from parenting time, apparently the State of Minnesota and St. Louis County have no issue with that. In fact, they seem to care more about collecting money than protecting children from the trauma they're witnessing.

In our child support hearing, a court document was introduced that clearly states that certain actions—like denying parenting time—are grounds for custody termination. When I brought this up in court, it was brushed aside. I was told they weren’t going to rule on that, even though it's right there in the court's own rules. How is that even possible?

Then, on March 21st, I saw the new Twisters movie. I won’t spoil the story, but there was a line at the end that really hit me. Glen Powell’s character turns to a reporter and says, “She is your story, Ben.” And it got me thinking: this whole thing—this mess—isn’t my story. It’s Amy’s. I’ve always known that, but sometimes I need the reminder.

Not long after, I remembered that Amy asked the court to start child support back in July 2024—the same time she took the kids. That means I’ll likely owe a big chunk in back pay. I also haven’t seen my kids since the first week of January 2025. When I did see them, they were wearing worn-out, hand-me-down clothes. Declan needed a haircut, and Sloane told me she was wearing her cousin’s shoes.

Even though I don’t agree with supporting someone who’s taken my children, I realized they probably need help. Amy might’ve had help from her brother at first, but knowing him, that likely didn’t last. I also know the state gives her $800/month—which they now want me to pay back. Seriously?

So, I thought: why not just help now? Why not do something that supports the kids now, even if the system is broken? So I did. I sent $2,000 directly from my bank account to hers—just like I’ve done many times over the years we were together.

Guess what? I’m now being criminally investigated by St. Louis County for allegedly violating the OFP—because I sent her money.  I didn't include a comment or note in the memo line.  Nothing.  It was just a money transfer. No logic—just a criminal investigation.

In last week’s child support hearing, we even discussed this payment. Amy and her attorney, Alex Landreville, claimed I only did it to get her address. Seriously? Has anyone’s bank ever given out a recipient's address for a direct deposit?

Now I’ve been called in to speak with investigators. I've been in contact with them for months and never once was asked to come in—until now. My gut says they’re using this as an opportunity to arrest me. Meanwhile, Amy and her attorney have been found to be—illegally accessing my computer—and nothing’s happened. That same department hasn’t even questioned her yet. Computer fraud, witness tampering, obstruction of justice and nothing yet. Send her a couple grand and now there's a problem. I don't get this government.

Am I seriously about to be the first person arrested for financially supporting my own children—before I was even ordered to? FML. I cannot make this stuff up. Does this not clearly show the problem!!! OPEN YOUR EYES!

I’ll keep you posted as this develops. As always, thank you for the continued support—and for the donations. They’re being put to good use this week. I’ll send another update on that soon.

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Ryan -

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