Building Momentum for Real Dad and Family Court Reform
- Ryan Alvar
- 2 days ago
- 3 min read
Today was another productive day for our movement for family court reform.
I spent the day at the Minnesota State Capitol. Nothing "official" was set up today, but honestly—there’s no difference between official and unofficial time with lawmakers. In both cases, you’re telling your story, you’re opening dialogue, and that’s all it takes to plant the seeds of real change.
The response was overwhelming: more thanks, more encouragement, and more supporters added today.
Between yesterday’s efforts outside the St. Louis County Courthouse in Duluth and today’s Capitol outreach, I also officially started distributing the new Real Dad Initiative brochures. I think they turned out great—and they are already helping to share the message that unmarried fathers need protection and guidance long before custody becomes a court battle.
🚀 A Movement in Motion
This week has been powerful not only because of the conversations—but because of the numbers you can’t always see.
Behind the scenes, the website traffic, the social media shares, and the engagement metrics have exploded. Not by a little—but by tens of thousands. This shows in real time just how many people are paying attention, resonating with our message, and wanting to join the fight.
And the best part? The conversations happening offline are just as powerful:
I’ve spoken with a family member of a father just starting this process who hasn’t seen his kid for five months.
I spoke to a father who hasn’t seen his daughter in twenty years, and now hopes to reconnect as adults.
I connected with a father who spent $100,000 over several years fighting for custody—battling both his ex and the government. After everything he endured, he now has 100% legal and physical custody of his children.
What does that tell us? The system was wrong.
The courts were wrong. And worst of all, the children suffered while the system failed to act.
At one point during his battle, his children were even injured in a car accident while in the custody of the mother who should never have had them. He wasn’t even notified—because he was an unmarried father, and the system decided he didn’t deserve to know. Their words, not his.
Then, in a separate incident, when the state finally recognized that the children needed to be removed from their mother’s care, they did take action—but instead of contacting their capable biological father, who had a valid Recognition of Parentage (ROP) in place, they placed his children into foster care.
Think about that.
Children placed with strangers—while their own father, fully capable and fighting for them, stood right there.
And after all of it—after the court battles, the endless legal fees, and the years of suffering—they finally agreed with him and placed the children in his care.
But after what?
After all that money, all that time, and all that needless pain.
Why wait until the damage is done?
⚠️ The Same Threat I Was Given
In my own case, when I pressed the Guardian ad Litem about the trauma my children were suffering—and I pushed for action—I was warned.
She said that if the mother lost custody, the children would be placed in foster care—not with me.
Even after:
I was removed from the OFP as no danger to the children.
I was acknowledged by the court as their father.
I had completed the ROP.
I was listed on the birth certificates.
Why would they even consider foster care when their father is standing right there?
Family court is supposed to be about the best interest of the children.
Tell me—how does any of this add up?
🛡️ We Will Keep Fighting
We will not stop until every father has a fair shot to be in their child’s life. Until the system stops punishing loving parents. Until transparency and justice replace bureaucracy and cruelty.
And we are gaining ground fast.
Please help keep the momentum going:
If you believe in truth, fairness, and protecting children, here’s how you can help:
Share the Real Dad Initiative – www.ryanalvar.com/real-dad
Donate or share the campaign – https://gofund.me/cb1f5bb5
Donations help print brochures, reach lawmakers, support legal filings, and expand the message across Minnesota—and beyond.
Spread the word – Share this post, talk about the issue, and be part of the change.
🔥 We are building something powerful. And we are just getting started.
Thank you for being part of this mission—for my children, for yours, and for the thousands of parents silenced by a system that refuses to see the truth.
Ryan -
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